What Women Want
What Women Want
By David Kraft
The question of what women want has been asked, debated, romanticised, and misunderstood for generations. It is often framed as a mystery—something elusive or unknowable. Yet in the consulting room, the answer is rarely obscure. What women want is not a single, fixed thing, but rather clarity: clarity about who they are, what they feel, what they need, and how they wish to live.
Psychotherapy offers a unique space in which this clarity can begin to take shape. In a world that frequently imposes expectations—about roles, relationships, success, and identity—many women find themselves navigating competing pressures. These external voices can become internalised, making it difficult to distinguish between what is genuinely desired and what is expected. Therapy gently disentangles these threads.
At its core, psychotherapy is a process of listening—deep, attentive, and without judgement. Through this process, women can begin to articulate thoughts and feelings that may have remained unspoken for years. Often, what emerges is not confusion, but a quiet, persistent knowing that has simply not been given the space to be heard.
As this inner voice becomes clearer, so too do desires and aspirations. These may relate to career, creativity, family, independence, or something more abstract—a sense of peace, authenticity, or self-respect. Therapy does not prescribe what a woman should want; rather, it helps her recognise and trust her own instincts. This is what it means to crystallise desire: to move from a vague sense of dissatisfaction to a more defined understanding of what feels meaningful and true.
Relationships are another central theme. Many women come to therapy seeking to understand patterns in their connections with others—partners, family members, colleagues, or friends. Why do certain dynamics repeat? Why is it difficult to assert needs, or to set boundaries? Why does intimacy sometimes feel unsafe or unfulfilling?
Through psychotherapy, these patterns can be explored with care and curiosity. Past experiences, particularly those rooted in early relationships, often shape how we connect in the present. By bringing these influences into awareness, women can begin to make different choices—choices that foster mutual respect, emotional honesty, and genuine intimacy. In this way, therapy becomes a pathway to forging relationships that are not only meaningful, but sustaining.
Fulfilment, ultimately, is not about achieving a perfect life. It is about alignment—between inner values and outer actions. Many women live highly functional, even successful lives, yet feel a persistent sense of disconnection or emptiness. Psychotherapy addresses this not by offering quick solutions, but by inviting a deeper exploration of what it means to live well.
This may involve confronting difficult truths, letting go of outdated identities, or taking risks that feel uncomfortable but necessary. It is not always an easy process. But it is a profoundly worthwhile one.
David Kraft is an experienced psychotherapist who works sensitively with women from all backgrounds, helping them explore their inner world with depth and clarity. He provides a safe, thoughtful space in which clients can better understand themselves, develop healthier relationships, and move towards a more authentic and fulfilling life. His approach is both reflective and practical, supporting meaningful and lasting change.
So, what do women want? They want to be heard, to understand themselves, to form relationships that nourish rather than deplete, and to live in a way that feels authentic. Psychotherapy does not provide a universal answer—but it creates the conditions in which each woman can discover her own.
And in that discovery lies the possibility of a more fulfilled life.
The Exhaustion of Holding Everything Together
Many women carry an unseen burden. They manage emotions, organise life, smooth conflicts, and ensure others feel supported. From the outside, they appear capable and strong. Beneath the surface, there is often deep exhaustion.
In families, workplaces and relationships, women frequently become the emotional organisers. They remember, anticipate, and step in when needed. This labour is largely invisible and rarely shared. Over time, it becomes expected.
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Many others rely on this role, the pressure grows. Partners, colleagues and family members may assume she will always cope, always manage, always absorb stress. Many women feel unable to step back, fearing everything will fall apart.
This leads to emotional strain. Some feel resentment but cannot explain it. Others feel guilty for prioritising themselves. Many continue out of habit, believing it is simply who they are.
Therapy offers space to explore these patterns, set boundaries, and restore balance. When responsibility is shared, relationships often improve and feel more genuine.
Ultimately, women who have held everything together can begin to experience the same care they give to others.
For support call psychotherapist David Kraft on 07946 579645.
Therapy Session in Enfield
Book a Therapy Session in Enfield with an Experienced Psychotherapist
If you’re looking for a therapist in Enfield, Southgate or Winchmore Hill, you’ve come to the right place. David Kraft PhD is a highly experienced counsellor and psychotherapist who has worked with individuals from all walks of life. With a thriving practice in Harley Street, London, for the past 17 years, Dr David
Kraft now also offers psychotherapy in Enfield for clients seeking professional, confidential, and results-driven support.
Why Choose Psychotherapist, David Kraft?
Dr Kraft brings a wealth of experience and compassion to his work. His approach is:
- Non-judgemental
- Kind and supportive
- Solution-focused
- Tailor-made to meet your specific needs
And David is an expert in his field.
Whether you’re dealing with anxiety, depression, stress, or more complex emotional challenges, Dr Kraft will work closely with you to develop a therapeutic plan designed specifically for your situation.
A Well-Known Psychotherapist in London
As a Harley Street psychotherapist, David Kraft has built a strong reputation in both London psychotherapy and Enfield therapy circles. His clinical work is widely respected for its emphasis on empathy, discretion, and real-world solutions.
Clients appreciate his commitment to creating a safe space where they can explore difficult emotions without fear of judgement. His style is collaborative—together, you will work on overcoming the barriers that prevent you from living a more fulfilling life.
Psychotherapy in Enfield – Focused on You
While Kraft’s credentials and experience speak for themselves, psychotherapy is all about you—your needs, your journey, and your healing. If you’ve been considering therapy in Enfield, it’s likely that you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or unsure about how to cope with certain aspects of your life.
You might be:
- Struggling with anxiety or panic attacks
- Feeling low, unmotivated, or depressed
- Experiencing relationship issues or family conflict
- Dealing with work-related stress or burnout
- Coping with grief or loss
- Finding it hard to manage obsessive thoughts or compulsions
- Battling low self-esteem or confidence issues
- Feeling overwhelmed by life transitions such as divorce, relocation, or job changes
- Suffering from phobias or specific fears
- Navigating emotional trauma or past abuse
These are just a few of the areas where therapy can make a profound difference. Dr Kraft uses evidence-based strategies to help you explore these challenges and find a path forward.
Looking for a Therapist in Enfield, Southgate, or Winchmore Hill?
Finding the right therapist can feel like a daunting task. That’s why it’s essential to work with someone who is both highly qualified and deeply attuned to your individual needs.
David Kraft PhD offers psychotherapy in Enfield to individuals who are ready to take the first step toward healing. Whether you’re local to Southgate, Winchmore Hill, or surrounding areas, you’ll receive personalised support in a welcoming, professional environment.
Sessions are available in-person or online, offering flexible options to fit around your lifestyle.
Therapy That Fits You
What sets Dr Kraft apart is his tailor-made approach to therapy. There is no “one-size-fits-all” solution. You are unique—and so should be your treatment. Whether you need short-term therapy to get through a difficult period or long-term support for more complex issues, you’ll be met with compassion, clarity, and expert guidance.
Book a Therapy Session in Enfield Today
If you’re ready to start your journey towards a healthier, more balanced life, now is the time to take action. Dr David Kraft is currently accepting new clients for psychotherapy in Enfield. Booking is simple, discreet, and designed with your comfort in mind.
Don’t wait to feel better. Whether you’re struggling with anxiety, depression, relationship problems or just feeling lost, help is available. An experienced, non-judgemental therapist can make all the difference.
Psychotherapy During the Coronavirus outbreak – London UK
During the period of the coronavirus in the UK, there were a number of people who felt extremely isolated. The elderly, and those who had underlying health conditions, were the worst off because they had to isolate – indeed, they only came out very recently. The implications of being isolated are numerous. People need physical contact and relationships with friends and family and this was not possible during this period; in fact, even now many family members on unable to meet each other.
We are living in a stressful time, and now, more than ever, people need psychological support from a qualified psychotherapist or psychologist. At present, some people still prefer to have sessions on their telephones or on the computer. Some prefer to have telephone sessions while others use Zoom or Skype in order to interact with the therapist. There are others who go to the therapist in person. It is then your choice whether you want to have a session with your mask or without. David Kraft always sits two metres away and leaves a window open in order to reduce risk of transmission. However this is completely your choice.
What the Coronavirus situation has done is to open up opportunities for people to have therapy abroad. David Kraft has a clinic in Harley Street and in Enfield and, apart from exceptions, where people travel long distances for therapy, mainly he treats people who live in and around the West End or people from North London. However, he is now found that people are ringing him from all over the British Isles, including Ireland, Scotland and Wales. And, now, people are starting to ring him from all over Europe. If you would like a session please contact him on (07946) 579645 or email him at dmjkraftesq@yahoo.co.uk.
David Kraft PhD
President Elect, Section of Hypnosis & Psychosomatic Medicine, Royal Society of Medicine
Registered UKCP Psychotherapist
Honorary Secretary, BSCAH Mets & South
Honorary Treasurer, BSCAH National
10 Harley Street London W1G 9PF UK Flat 70, Cosmopolitan Court 67 Main Avenue Enfield Middlesex EN1 1GD
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Telephone counselling in Enfield during Lockdown
With the present lockdown and restrictions due to
the Coronavirus, now is probably the best time to talk about the importance of
telephone counselling. I have been offering telephone counselling or telephone psychotherapy
for many years now. In the beginning, I utilised this approach for agoraphobics
who were simply too scared to leave the house; I also offered it to another
category of people who were frightened of transport or travelling by car.
Without telephone counselling they would have not been able to recover. The
next stage was gradually to desensitise them so that they were able to come for
regular appointments with me either in Harley Street or at my home practice in
Enfield. A number of clients were able to do this and their therapy moved on
fairly quickly, while others required more intense treatment. There are also those
who are so busy, either at work or at home or a combination, where telephone
counselling is really the best option. Presently, due to the lockdown, all of
my clients either have telephone counselling sessions with me or use some form
of video conferencing. All my clients in town or in Enfield are having session
this way, and this will continue until the lockdown is lifted.
Telephone counselling is just like having a face-to-face session but it is on
the telephone. There were a number of organisations which offer telephone
counselling on the internet; however, at Enfield Psychotherapy, we are very
flexible about setting up telephone counselling sessions. Some like to book 5
to 10 sessions in advance, and they obviously get a discount, what others like
to organise sessions on a weekly basis. There are also those who like to be
more even more flexible than this and they book sessions when appropriate.
Sessions can be booked Monday to Friday from 8 am to 8 pm. I also offer
sessions at the weekend—usually, on Saturdays.
May is World Mental Awareness Month. Celebrities and Royalty have spoken up
about the importance of helping people who are struggling with their mental
health. Indeed, nowadays people are much more accepting about mental health and
really the way to look at it is that everyone has got problems from time to
time. Today, life is very hectic, and creating a balance is very difficult.
Sometimes, it is helpful to speak to a professional mental health specialist
and this can be done conveniently over the telephone. If you are professional,
it is a great way to make time for yourself which is both convenient to you as
well as the therapist. In the therapy, you can talk about whatever you need to
talk about—the past or something that is happening in the present. It is important
in a counselling session to make sure you find a place where you are private,
where you can relax. However, some busy clients even take sessions during a walk,
and this is possible even in Enfield! What is important, is that it is right for
you and that you are comfortable in your surroundings while you talk to your
counsellor. Counselling psychotherapy can help you move on in life and become
more confident both at work and at home. But those who have a specific
psychological problems can deal with this with your psychotherapist over the telephone.
David Kraft is based in Enfield; however, he treats clients from all over the UK, and some people telephone in from abroad.
David Kraft
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Enfield Psychotherapy in association with London Hypnotherapy UK
Coronavirus and the need for telephone counselling (part two)
In a previous blog, I pointed out that, during the lockdown phase of the Coronavirus, many people will be in a desperate need to make contact. Some people will be able to cope by sending text messages, emails, or by corresponding with friends and family members using video conferencing programmes. Most people will be missing being able to have a normal conversation with somebody in person—particularly those living on their own—and this, although difficult, is a completely normal reaction. However, there will be a number of people who will require telephone counselling and this is certainly something that London Hypnotherapy UK can offer.
Many existing clients, but also some new ones, have asked about hypnosis, and whether this could be done on Skype or Zoom. As a member of the Ac and Ac Committee of BSCAH, I have thought very carefully about the implications of employing this technique by remote—on the phone, or on some form of video conferencing. After some deliberation, I’ve decided that, actually, it would not be ethical to do hypnosis by remote. The reasons for this are as follows. First, hypnosis is a dual procedure which really should be done in person: one of the most important aspects of hypnosis is the personal touch, and rapport is best established with a person, being present in the situation. Secondly, there is the problem of an abreaction. If someone gets upset, for instance, it might be difficult dealing with this by remote.
However, I do have some solutions to this problem. One approach is to provide clients with an outline of how to do self hypnosis and to get them to practise it at home. Once they have learnt this approach, they can then act out the therapeutic technique—say, a metaphor of some kind—and work through some of the suggestions in a homework hypnosis task. Clients can then go away and practise the self hypnosis and provide the therapist with some feedback at the following consultation. Another technique is to act out hypnosis, in the consulting room, without any sort of induction: they can then practise this skill during the week. This is beneficial for clients because the therapist can provide feedback and give examples of helpful suggestions during the session.
If you’d like to book a telephone counselling or psychotherapy session with David Kraft please phone (0207) 467 8564 or email him at dmjkraftesq@yahoo.co.uk.
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Coronavirus and the need for telephone counselling
We are living in a very difficult time at present. All of us are locked up in some way. The over 70s and the vulnerable are completely locked up and have to rely on others to shop for them: they are housebound and there is little hope of returning to normal life in the foreseeable future. Everybody else can only shop for essentials and get out to do some exercise for a very short period of time. We are all essentially social creatures. Even those who enjoy their own company and people who are somewhat introspective need validation and support from others. We also have an intrinsic need for touch and verbal communication.
Most of us are making every effort to continue relationships in some shape or form using the Internet— specifically by using social media and video conferencing. However, it is not enough. We live in a very stressful age with lots of noises and pressures at work and there has never been a greater need for counselling or psychotherapy. Of course, the waiting list for counselling and psychotherapy was long before the coronavirus hit the world. And now, people can’t get to see their psychotherapist because they are meant to stay at home. However, there are some counsellors and psychotherapists who are offering telephone or video psychotherapy sessions. If you would like an appointment, please ring 0207 467 8564 or email David at dmjkraftesq@yahoo.co.uk.
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Enfield Counselling Local Link: http://www.londonhypnotherapyuk.com/glossary-enfield-counselling-and-hypnotherapy-local/
David Kraft PhD
Registered UKCP Psychotherapist
10 Harley Street
London W1G 9PF UK
Flat 70, Cosmopolitan Court
67 Main Avenue
Enfield
Middlesex
EN1 1GD
0207 467 8564 (General Enquiries)
07946 579645 (Work Mobile)
Telephone Counselling: a Solution to getting Psychotherapy or Counselling during the Coronavirus Outbreak.
#Coronavirus has affected the whole population of the world in some shape or form, and getting psychotherapy is no exception. Over the last two weeks, I have had a huge number of people phone me, desperate for therapy but worried about going out. And soon, presumably, we will be forced to stay in our home or at least strongly advised to stay in solitude. This is going to be a difficult time for everybody of the next few weeks. Most people crave social interaction and this virus has put a stop to almost all social events.
0207 467 8564 (General Enquiries)
07946 579645 (Work Mobile)
Thankfully, I do offer Zoom and other #videopsychotherapy. I have also offered #telephonecounselling for a number of years, and this is most effective when it is combined with homework tasks, behaviour techniques and reframing. It is not advisable, however, to do hypnotherapy on a conference video call. However, the way round this is to act out the hypnosis technique over the phone and then practise it in your own time.
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Clinics: Harley Street; Enfield
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What is a School Street and how does this help to Reduce Stress and Anxiety for Teachers and Parents?
Two weeks’ ago, two ‘school streets’ opened. So what is a ‘school street’? A school street is when the roads surrounding the school close. This means that the whole of the area surrounding the school is free from traffic; as a result, when parents come to pick up their children from school, there is reduced pollution and there isn’t nearly the same amount of stress and anxiety. In most areas in north London, parents drive as close as they can to the school at pick up time: this causes pollution and congestion. In fact, many teachers point out that it can become dangerous on the streets with so many cars on the road. However, this is not the case in a ‘school street’. From Monday to Friday, during term time, only pedestrians, cyclists, permit holders and residents are allowed in the roads immediately adjacent to the school. So far, there are two schools which have signed up to this new scheme in the Borough of Enfield – namely, Oakthorpe Primary School, Palmers Green, and St Monica’s Catholic School near Southgate.
These schemes help to forge a more harmonious atmosphere in the local area, and they are extremely important to both children and parents. They also help to reduce stress for local teachers who are duty outside the school at the end of the day. The idea is that pupils also take up other forms of active travelling – cycling, walking, jogging and so forth. This scheme has all sorts of benefits for well being and the environment. Indeed, Climate Action Enfield is making further plans to reduce carbon monoxide in Enfield. As a psychotherapist, I often meet parents and teachers who are plagued by stress and anxiety particularly when it comes to home time. Many parents have to leave half an hour early in order to pick up their children. And teachers who are on duty—and this includes form tutors in the primary school setting, who cannot leave until they know that all their pupils are safe—really suffer at the end of the school day. This causes stress and anxiety at a time when teachers should be recovering from a hard day’s work. This new scheme is an excellent attempt to remedy this situation, and it is hoped that similar ‘school streets’ will appear in the rest of the Borough of Enfield.
Appointments: 0207 467 8564 (General Enquiries) 07946 579645 (Work Mobile)
Enfield-based psychotherapist, David Kraft PhD, offers reduced rates for teachers. For more information on counselling/psychotherapy for teachers, click here.
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